Undergoing a divorce is going to be challenging, even under the most ideal and cooperative circumstances. When kids are involved, it complicates the matter even more so. Of course, most parents want to be part of their child’s life. This is why fighting for child custody is so important, as there are things you can do prior to and during the court case to get the best chances possible of an outcome you hope for. The one thing to keep in mind is that the judge’s focus will be on what is for the best interest of the child. If you are preparing for a child custody case, consider these tips:
Show you are engaged and responsible.
You can’t change behaviors or choices from the past, but you can begin anew and position yourself as an engaged and dutiful parent. In an ideal situation, you will have done this long before the child custody case, as that shows you truly are genuine about changing unhelpful personality patterns.
It’s understandable that you may be struggling with emotions such as anxiety, fear, shock, and betrayal, as the other parent may be more or less collaborative with you on establishing child custody. Parents are allowed to write child custody terms themselves, but it will have to be officially approved by the court.
Create a peaceful and suitable home
The judge handling your child custody case needs to see that the living arrangements you can offer your children are suitable. This should be a peaceful, safe, and supportive environment. Your ex may be working hard to show the exact opposite, especially if they are hoping for full custody. While this can easily make someone angry and want to act out, it’s best to remain calm and recruit help from a lawyer to get you prepared.
Demonstrate good character.
When going to trial for custody of your kids, there may be the opportunity to call up witnesses who can attest to your character. Is there anyone in your life that is reliable, and who has seen you engage positively with your children? If so, then ask if they are willing to advocate for your behalf during the court hearing. A written testimony from them may be helpful if they are unable to attend in person.